The final word on spooning, according to science.
You sleep back-to-back and far apart
Although sleeping with your back to your partner and a space in between you might not seem too romantic, one study found it’s the most common of all couple sleeping positions, likely because it’s practical. Twenty-seven percent of the couples surveyed for the study identified this position as their primary one. Corrine Sweet, the relationship psychologist who carried out the study, says the position shows their couples are connected and secure. “This position shows both closeness and independence in the relationship,” she says. Sleeping apart for a different reason? Here’s what your fights say about your relationship.
You love to spoon
When it comes to couple sleeping positions, this one’s a classic. In Sweet’s study, 18 percent of couples said they spooned when they snoozed. She says the position demonstrates a dynamic where one partner is protective over the other. Remember, the signs that you can trust your partner aren’t always the most obvious. Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of Success Signals: A Guide to Reading Body Language, told Cosmopolitan it’s also sensual. “It’s a very vulnerable position that’s sexual, but says, ‘I trust you,’” she says. But beware the spoon position turning into a chase: If your partner has retreated toward one side of the bed and you’ve gone to follow him or her, something could be amiss (this is not to confused with the “loose spoon,” which tends to occur as a couples’ relationship matures).
You sleep back-to-back and touching
Signs of love aren’t always grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s when you touch butts while you sleep. Sweet’s study found back-to-back with butts touching to be the second most popular of the couple sleeping positions. So what does it mean? “Both partners are relaxed and comfortable with one another—this is often common in new relationships,” says Sweet.
You start the night intertwined, then move apart
Couples who sleep in this position tend to start the night with their arms and legs intertwined while facing each other and move apart after about 10 minutes. “It’s a compromise between intimacy and independence, allowing for the best of both worlds,” says Sweet. Her study found that 8 percent of couples sleep like this. If you fall into this category, find out the solo sleep position you should take on with these 10 sleep positions for different health problems.